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Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by silvestrov on Thursday February 13, 2025 @05:50AM (#43034684)
> kids with trust issues would tend to do worse

They don't do worse in the household they live in. They do better because if they waited for the 2nd marshmallow at home then they would end up with nothing.

Better with one bird in the hand right now than waiting for two empty promises.

So many of these psychological tests are based on values in upper-middle-class families. They are not always valid when the parents are drug users or alcoholic.

Kids of alcoholic parents know that most promises are empty promises. You are a fool if you take a "we will go to Disneyland on saturday" promise seriously.

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Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by krisoft on Thursday February 13, 2025 @07:03AM (#43035050)
Yeah. Just the wording "trust issues" makes it sound like the issue is with the kid. When in reality it is possible that they have a well grounded, rational, and evidence based belief that adults tend to not fulfil their promises. Exactly as you say.
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