Probably a hot take but if you use the word 'incel' to label people you are kinda trash. If you use sexuality to label people in a bad way/try to demean them (especially when one of the worlds you use is involuntary I.E. out of their control), you are definitely trash.

Incelism has nothing to do with sexuality. Incel culture labels people - especially women - in bad ways and demeans them all the time. It's misogyny as an identity, it is not an immutable personal characteristic. Their participation in that culture and their behavior is entirely within their control.