> The idea of someone introducing you to someone else at a party is them helping

Umm ... along the lines of "helping" someone to learn to swim by pushing them into the deep end of a swimming pool?

This is also what stuck to me. The world is not as one wants and is up to the world to come to me with a fix. Self reliance replaced with self pity, will end up with sadness because the world will never be exactly as we want. I do find the idea of finding likeminded people good and you should do it. It is what I do and it is nice.