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Re:The Trap of "I am not an Extrovert" by smsm42 on Thursday December 26, 2024 @11:06PM (#42519858)
That's one thing I noticed - the author doesn't say "would you like me to introduce you to X who you could talk to about Y?". He says "hey, go talk to that guy" and thinks he's being kind. He's not. What Aditya could be hearing is "you're some kind of loser, there are so many obvious things any normal person would do, and you are doing none of them. Let me list some ways in which you are a loser. For example, you could be talking to that cool guy and you don't. And now that I told you that I'm going to leave you to soak in your loser-ness while I am going to have fun with my cool friends!". It's probably not what the author meant at all. But that's what it easily could become. Aditya clearly has some trouble connecting to strange people, for one reason or another. A kind thing would be to try to help him, not to label him "closed heart" and dismiss him. Of course, nobody owes him that, but if you proudly declare it's your job... If you think telling an introvert not having a good time "why don't you have a good time! go and have good time right now!" is going to work, you clearly don't understand how introverts work.
Re:The Trap of "I am not an Extrovert" by robertlagrant on Friday December 27, 2024 @01:49AM (#42520376)
This doesn't seem to relate much to the parent comment. The idea of someone introducing you to someone else at a party is them helping.
Re:The Trap of "I am not an Extrovert" by logifail on Friday December 27, 2024 @06:35AM (#42521432)
> The idea of someone introducing you to someone else at a party is them helping

Umm ... along the lines of "helping" someone to learn to swim by pushing them into the deep end of a swimming pool?

Re:The Trap of "I am not an Extrovert" by ptsneves on Friday December 27, 2024 @07:53AM (#42521727)
This is also what stuck to me. The world is not as one wants and is up to the world to come to me with a fix. Self reliance replaced with self pity, will end up with sadness because the world will never be exactly as we want. I do find the idea of finding likeminded people good and you should do it. It is what I do and it is nice.