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Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships by bityard on Wednesday December 04, 2024 @12:05PM (#42319478)
I get it, as engineers we value efficiency and truth above almost everything else. But most people are not like us.

They want to be appreciated, acknowledged, and seen above almost everything else. If you call up an old acquaintance and start the conversation by asking if they know of any job openings, you will be seen as someone who only values what they can DO for you, instead of who are they ARE to you. Nobody likes being a tool, they like being a friend, and like feeling that they are doing something good for someone that likes them for who they are.

Now, we ALL know that the call out of the blue to catch up often has an ulterior motive but it's polite (and necessary) to at least PRETEND that the ask is not the main reason you called.

Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships by tejaskumar_ on Wednesday December 04, 2024 @12:41PM (#42319867)
Exactly. Humans are so much more irrational and illogical than the machines we know. And this is a feature, not a bug.
Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships by 01HNNWZ0MV43FF on Wednesday December 04, 2024 @02:07PM (#42320823)
Nit: If it's irrational and it works, it's not irrational
Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships by Vampiero on Wednesday December 04, 2024 @05:51PM (#42322930)
It's a feature if you're neurotypical
Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships by Aeolun on Wednesday December 04, 2024 @01:03PM (#42320127)
You don't even have to pretend that the ask is not the main reason you called. Of course you call me because you need something, I do this too.

But if you called, and you are not even slightly interested in catching up, that just makes you a rude ass.