Re:My Time Working at Stripe
by whatshisface on Saturday November 02, 2024 @12:03PM
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"I used to have anxiety over being a good developer, but then I realized that it was about hitting story points, not learning Rust. Now I deliver business value regularly and have been able to cancel my appointments with my therapist."
"Being on-call 24/7 helps me feel like I'm a part of something, fulfilling a deep want for belonging that being kicked off the Girl Scout troop created in me."
"I've always lacked a father figure. When you told me to spend less time browsing HackerNews and more time on Jira, I felt like I was part of a real family."
That reminds me heavily of krazams's "I Have Delivered Value... But At What Cost?", https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYvhC_RdIwQ
I've noticed this trend in recent years to be "open about mental health", etc. And I think by itself this is great, mental health is important. But invariably, especially in management/HR settings (or in the entertainment industry), it is done in an incredibly shallow way.
Mental health is hard. Just talking openly isn't magically going to fix things and may even initially make things worse. It may release feelings that need to be carefully managed e.g. by a therapist. Obviously, no company would ever be able to provide that. Instead, they're just looking for "I started running every morning and was able to fix my depression" kind of stories.