(If you're just casually dating around / looking for hookups, then sure, do what you think you need to do.)

In college I was wearing a Halo biking shirt in the computer lab. A female friend remarked, “no one is going to date you if you wear that shirt.” Another friend nearby heard and quipped back, “or only the right girls will date him wearing that shirt.”

You should view your preferences more as a filter. While you should be open to new experiences which may change those presences, if something makes you truly unhappy, you are better finding a partner who won’t force that in your life.

Then when I got in really good shape I thought it was because I didn't make enough money.

When I started making money I thought it was because I wasn't tall enough.

There is no way having social media or not is mattering that much. It is just in your head.