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A comment on Ask HN: What breakthrough helped you build and maintain better relationships?.

Re:Ask HN: What breakthrough helped you build and maintain b... by aagha on Friday October 11, 2024 @02:38PM (#41812103)
3 strikes and you're out.

I'm nearly 50 and an extrovert and I've found that healthy and fulfilling relations are a function of reciprocity.

I'm willing to engage with someone 3x and see if they'll reciprocate. If not, I move on--no hard feelings, just realizing it's not a mutual fit.

This rule has served me immensely well in my friends. As a result, I have nearly no loose friends--just very tight, reliable connections.

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Re:Ask HN: What breakthrough helped you build and maintain b... by beadey on Friday October 11, 2024 @09:20PM (#41815538)
I think this is a good rule to live by that I should incorporate. I fear that energy I spend on people who just aren’t into me will leave me bitter and reluctant to spend that energy on others, which will have compounding effects as I get later into life. Giving myself a firm limit of energy spent will help ensure it persists longer.
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