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Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by standardUser on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @06:06PM (#41573373)
> 1. Men are socialized to only be emotive in aggressive or masculine ways.

Some men, absolutely. Most men? Maybe. But I removed those kinds of people from my life years ago. The few men I involuntarily socialize with are coworkers, mostly programmers, and they tend to be on the less macho side generally, thank god.

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Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by maxbond on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @06:35PM (#41573609)
To be clear I just meant there was pressure to behave that way, not that it's destiny.
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Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by dyauspitr on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @07:46PM (#41574099)
I removed the emotive kind. I’m not comfortable around them and I find them to be heavily involved with their identity and defining themselves and less about building things and going places. These are obviously broad strokes but anecdotally they have generally held true.
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