Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl...
by johnnyanmac on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @05:21AM
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> I've never understood it when I meet men who only have male friends.
to be fair, I barely have male friends. The extra friction with a hetero woman basically makes it impossible for that to happen organically like it could 10-20 years prior. It's just hard to "stick" with people as you leave the college days. And be it due to bad luck or personal looks or personality or whatnot, I haven't had many people try to keep the connection.
I've been trying to do some small chat with meetup aquaintances online and sometimes it just feels like I'm throwing in more job applications with the respose rate I get. It takes two to tango.
>Do these commenters also think gay men have solely female friends, and that non-binary people all live in remote caves, isolated from each other the same as with cisgendered folk?
Not particularly. I know there's a lot of special interests groups focused around LGBT communities, so that lived identity is a strong bonding point. Not so much for a hetero male like myself (the "default"). That's also why dating apps for homosexual people tend to have much higher success rates.
to be fair, I barely have male friends. The extra friction with a hetero woman basically makes it impossible for that to happen organically like it could 10-20 years prior. It's just hard to "stick" with people as you leave the college days. And be it due to bad luck or personal looks or personality or whatnot, I haven't had many people try to keep the connection.
I've been trying to do some small chat with meetup aquaintances online and sometimes it just feels like I'm throwing in more job applications with the respose rate I get. It takes two to tango.
>Do these commenters also think gay men have solely female friends, and that non-binary people all live in remote caves, isolated from each other the same as with cisgendered folk?
Not particularly. I know there's a lot of special interests groups focused around LGBT communities, so that lived identity is a strong bonding point. Not so much for a hetero male like myself (the "default"). That's also why dating apps for homosexual people tend to have much higher success rates.