Completely agree with you. I think (like you) it is about VERY deliberate action. My phrase: a conscious turn in the other direction.
The more I practice changing or revamping my reactions/approaches to situations, the more those things improve.
Not everyone will agree but IMO - the skeptic is simply not that willing to try. That's ok. But it's the reality.
Re:Be a Thermostat, Not a Thermometer
by theultdev on Thursday September 12, 2024 @08:13AM
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> It can be quite liberating and fun to understand and process these things, much like understanding code and data structures in order to recombine them into things you want to achieve.
This thread actually made me realize it's much easier to express this in code vs words since it deals with state and logic:
https://gist.github.com/TheUltDev/fc8386e42205504c55d1cf2127...
Re:Be a Thermostat, Not a Thermometer
by germinalphrase on Thursday September 12, 2024 @10:34AM
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As a topical extension, there are entire therapeutic modalities (like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) that assist people in doing this kind of in-the-moment emotional reflection and recontextualization. If this sort of thing is difficult, seeking out a therapist that specializes in these modalities can be helpful (and seeking the support of a therapist does not require a person to be ‘mentally ill’).
Well, it’s like most things, it takes practice and time to be good at it if natural talent isn’t there.
Sure, things out of our control can trigger emotions, but one incredible ability of humans is to rationalize those emotions and act in more constructive ways than to immediate react back.
It can be quite liberating and fun to understand and process these things, much like understanding code and data structures in order to recombine them into things you want to achieve.