The intuition and the formalism are presented together (at least, they should be!). To learn the role of epsilon and delta, the student needs to jump back and forth, finding the correspondences between equations and the motivation. This is a skill that needs practice; this was one of the first places I found the equations dense enough that I couldn't just "swallow them whole".
(The earlier I remember is the quadratic formula, which I first painfully memorized as technical trivia. It took me a couple of years to grasp that it was completing-the-square in general form. Switching between the general and the specific is another skill that you develop)
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When I was in college, the Philosophy department offered this course. It was considered an easy way to get a general education math credit without needing to be good at math. It was a really enjoyable course[0] that put me on the path to becoming a computer programmer. It occasionally comes in handy[1].
If you mean experimental work, then sure, that's like laboratory chemistry. You run code and write up what you observe happens. If you're trying to prove theorems, you have to understand the epsilon delta stuff even if your proofs don't actually use it. It can be somewhat abstracted away by the statistics and differential equations theorems that you mention, but it is still there. Anyway, the difficulty melts away once you have seen enough math to deal with the statistics, differential equations, have some grasp of high dimensional geometry, etc. It's all part of "how to think mathematically" rather than some particular weird device that one studies and forgets.
Since Lean builds everything from scratch, this should be doable, albeit Lean builds everything on top of type theory which is not the only choice possible. Different foundations will result in a different graph.
Also the best way to learn math is probably not by following this sort of graph, it would be far too abstract and disconnected from both the real world and usual practical applications.
Good alternatives are The Princeton Companion to Mathematics by Gowers and Mathematics: Its content, Methods and Meaning by Alekxandrov, Kolmogorov, et al. Those present much more detailed maps so YMMV.
It has virtually no prerequisites, at least in classical mathematics. But I wouldn’t call it ‘easy’ (indeed, many proficient in elementary calculus and so on find it very hard). If you study category theory with no knowledge of any of the concepts it’s designed to abstract it’s not going to make any sense and the whole exercise is pointless. You may be able to follow it and complete exercises, but you won’t actually grok it.
That's OP's point.
"Age-appropriate" was put in quotes because it was referring to a metaphorical "mathematical age" to tie it to the concept of mathematical maturity.
And, indeed, certain books require more mathematical maturity to get through than others, even though the prerequisites may be minimal. You'll see this often explicitly described in the preface of textbooks and reviews of those textbooks.
They mentioned studying certain books to develop mathematical maturity because that's where the practice and experience happen. Calculus is one such course used as part of this process, as are many courses intended as a first exposure to proofs like linear algebra and discrete math. Some might use the Moore Method with point-set topology.
I disagree, you need to have capacity for abstract thought for abstract topics, most especially with category theory. Normal people have quite difficulty understanding abstractness, you either have the aptitude for it, or work your brain hard enough that it becomes somewhat easier. Children and younger people especially have difficulty understanding non-concrete topics.
Mathematical maturity has all to do with practice and experience and nothing to do with age.
Category Theory is easy because it starts from nothing, literally. You can learn it at any age and with no almost no prior education. Same with various formal logics.
You can't study or use in any way the theory of Calabi–Yau manifolds unless you have mastered all of its prerequisites.
Certainly the advice of not choosing textbooks you don't understand is spot on, however. Unfortunately (?) most textbooks assume quite a bit of background, so you don't often have much choice in this regard.