Nailed it, exactly. Not an endorsement but that's how it is.

I just struggled through this list for years. First, internally - then I announced my intent to leave.

People raised some of the points in a caring way. I have so many trust issues I don't know if I was being gaslit or if they truly believed it. I started to wonder who it served when I saw the patterns.

Anyway, don't believe the bastards. If you're willing to work, good people will teach you what you need. Find them.

Don't waste your time places where you aren't happy and valued