https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/tscc3e5eujrsEeFN4/well-kept-...
You're right that you're not a hall monitor though. You're worse, actually, because you are actually committing a good deal of the harassment of real people yourself. You have in these very comments. You're bullying people away and pretending that this is better than preventing someone from entering their own well-kept garden.
They are still a transphobe though.
Only if you have nonsensical and sexist beliefs like 'a woman is anyone who says they are a woman' or 'a woman is anyone who performs femininity' or 'a woman is anyone feminine enough for me to be sexually attracted to them' would you think that these men are women.
The rest of us live in the real world where we understand women to be female and men to be male.
Wild accusations of transphobia are losing their impact, these days it means more to the accuser than the accused. It's like a Christian calling an atheist 'heretic'. No big deal really.