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Re:Ask HN: Has Anyone Trained a personal LLM using their per... by mattlondon on Thursday April 04, 2024 @01:29AM (#39926870)
Off topic,but where did that gendering come from in your response? I am generally indifferent to personal pronouns but somehow this came across as particularly jarring as I guess it felt like a projection of misogynistic views of female weakness/need for therapy/emotionalness/etc. They/their might have been more appropriate here.
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Re:Ask HN: Has Anyone Trained a personal LLM using their per... by serial_dev on Thursday April 04, 2024 @02:40AM (#39927245)
English is not my first language, so I beg for your forgiveness that I didn't use the they/them. In my language, there is no gendered pronouns, so it's hard for me to guess what's the correct way.

When I use he/him, people tell me I assume everyone on HN and tech is a male.

When I use she/her, you come and label me as misogynistic, too.

At one point I just give up. Or you know, you could also assume positive intent and not label someone misogynistic based on a comment where gender was not at all important to the discussion.

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Re:Ask HN: Has Anyone Trained a personal LLM using their per... by melagonster on Thursday April 04, 2024 @03:07AM (#39927400)
you can use "they" at every where today. but I don't whether someone will accuse you support Trans community.
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Re:Ask HN: Has Anyone Trained a personal LLM using their per... by mewpmewp2 on Thursday April 04, 2024 @04:18AM (#39927771)
Another possibility is to use "op", although it can feel a bit forumish.
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Re:Ask HN: Has Anyone Trained a personal LLM using their per... by serial_dev on Thursday April 04, 2024 @04:56AM (#39928022)
I used OP, though, I didn't want to use "OP" every time I am referencing this person, I thought it would sound strange OP OP OP...

Anyway, I'm glad this thread turned into a "how you can avoid being called a misogynist in throwaway comment on HN". I guess from now on, I filter through my comments through Gemini to make sure my English is immaculate and that native English speakers don't castigate me for a small mistake.

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Re:Ask HN: Has Anyone Trained a personal LLM using their per... by ethbr1 on Thursday April 04, 2024 @11:52AM (#39931984)
Mattlondon probably could have done without the color commentary, but I wouldn't take anything you did as wrong in English.

Our lack of singular neuter pronouns sucks. (I.e. singular 'they')

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