But I’m stupid and/or deluded if I’m hammering in nails all day with a screwdriver.
It’s useful to use the right tool for the right job. Tinder is designed for short term hookups and more people use it for that than not. And that’s perfectly ok. Let people hookup if they want to.
My point is that if your goal is long term relationships, you will likely have better luck using other tools designed for and more frequently used for that.
A dating app is for finding people who are looking/available. Where does it say it's for short term relationships?
> My point is that if your goal is long term relationships, you will likely have better luck using other tools designed for and more frequently used for that.
Thinking that using one dating app instead of another dating app is magically going to save you from your SO leaving you is maybe not the right mindset here.
Finding soulmate is about exploration.
But the apps are all the same and simply show people who are actually looking so you don't have to guess if it's okay to chat them up. Short or long, that most people themselves don't know (but they may think so) because it depends. Are you the kind who would not want to do the work and just assume because you met on the long term dating app you don't need to shower every day? etc.
If they say up front they want a hookup then sure but I haven't met anyone like that.
Saying Tinder, specifically, isn't for hookups is a bit like buying a framing hammer and saying it isn't for driving nails. Or I guess, more appropriately, saying Tinder isn't for folks using hookups as a lure.
Despite the textured face, specific head and handle size, and balance being expressly optimized for hitting framing nails all day every day.
Can you use it for other purposes? Yes. But it really isn't made or optimized for that.
> I think it’s important that people trust what others say and don’t try to project their own beliefs.
Exactly. Saying tinder is for long term people or short term is projection. It'sa tool. You use it however you do.