When you are incognito, only people you swipe see you. Once you match, your matches can still see and communicate with you in app.

Be strategic. Everything happens during that one week subscription.

Once you match, pause and go figure out if they are a good person for you, if you don’t, pause anyway and wait a bit. Checking tinder shouldn’t be like checking email. Do it deliberately.

Gotcha, I thought you were getting matches after/during the pause. Makes sense. And IMO checking email should be deliberate, too.

I agree with everything in your first comment. But want to extra agree that "pause" is really important. It's impossible to manage a bunch of matches. Focus on one or two and move those along or cut them loose if they're not doing the same.

Your comment about the "No" is probably the hardest of the obvious advice to follow. Casting a wide net just distracts from what you really want - it's hoping for something.