I hear you my man. American men show very worrying numbers and trends wrt sexual health, fitness, et al. It's quite terrible to see first hand - I don't have any answers but my experience is often that the parents themselves have been damaged in many cases.

I don't know what can be done. There's many healthy ones among the groups but I dunno, I despair at times.

Hang in there. Focus inwardly and be sure to maintain your overall health.