Whoah. This is a type of sociopathic reasoning applied to data modeling. The premise is based on accepting compromise knowing fully the consequences of data corruption and yet failing to address the actual rider: data shall not be left in an inconsistent state. An argument turned on its head. Much like asking the question “is it ethical to be deliberately inaccurate on your IRS returns” is answered with “this is not a question about ethics”. Is it not a gigantic assumption to claim:
1. The compromise has “worked” for others (“most successful websites on the planet” [sic]) without providing any real evidence supporting this claim? What does “worked” mean? Is Twitter “ok” with providing suggestions for Followers which contain people already in the user’s follow list? What were the consequences of data inconsistencies in matters related to financial transactions? Was every requirement able to simulate a catch-all “place a back-order” solution? These are real questions that have to be answered before evangelising the compromise.
2. If it works for others (meaning: if you are willing to accept compromises about data consistency) this compromise ought to be brought to your garden-variety corporate environment? Gasp! As it is, volumes or scalability issues aside, corporate environments suffer from data inconsistencies, poor or no transactional control, ineffective referential integrity etc. There’s very little positive impact of encouraging this habit as an overt practise under the false generalised promise of “you will eventually need to scale to millions”.
They can keep their CAP theorem or BASE principles for the likes of social toys like Twitter and Facebook. When credit card companies and banks start accepting compromises on their transactions, I’ll start paying due attention.
Most of these large -- and particularly, global -- systems you speak of are eventually consistent also; they use the relational database as a potent backend member of a distributed system, able to check and deal with a great many constraint problems that can be localized.
I take it you are aware of Brewer's CAP theorem? (http://www.julianbrowne.com/article/viewer/brewers-cap-theor...) If not, you should be.