Ask HN: Did you have kids later in life, how did it do for you?

Re:Ask HN: Did you have kids later in life, how did it do fo... by throwaway8383x on Thursday January 04, 2024 @12:59AM (#38863599)

I had my first at 35, second at 39 (last year).

My only "regret" was I didn't have them sooner so that I'd have more energy and drive. But, in reality, it wouldn't be the same and I'd have other regrets if so.

I never wanted kids. Why bring more people to this shit show, you know? So I just focused on my work and having a good time.

But my better half always wanted kids and we've been together for years.

One day, while on vacation, I get the news that the project I was working on remotely had been pulled and the whole team is out of a job. That's when it hit me: fuck it.

And so we did.

Financially, I'm borderline poor. Mentally, I'm beat. Physically, I'm useless. Parenting is the hardest thing (being a tourist is easy). It's the epitomy of paranoia. It's like extreme sports for the mind.

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Re:Ask HN: Did you have kids later in life, how did it do fo... by keepamovin on Thursday January 04, 2024 @06:32AM (#38865749)

I love that story man (sorry if you're a woman! but I'm not talking about gender just an expression). And the way you write about it is fantastic.

Like there's something redemptive in reading your writing. As if it, even if everything isn't going to be alright, you make it seem like it will. I bet you're a fantastic parent. Keep it up! :)

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