I think this speaks to the frustration that OP has which I also do, which is that the commentary has barely moved even a millimeter past first impressions.

It's not in the form of any kind of principled objection to the project of building out the fediverse, any technical issue with the choice of technologies, or any affirmative argument in favor of the status quo where all this activity being captured by increasingly enshittified platforms. The motivations and the objectives are play are wrestling with important questions, and the peanut gallery thinks that talking about the first impression of the name counts as participating in that conversation, which is depressing.