Ask HN: How is your early retirement working out?

Re:Ask HN: How is your early retirement working out? by mortallywounded on Wednesday November 15, 2023 @10:32PM (#38285584)

I like to spend as much time as I can with my wife and kids. When we vacation we get to spend lots of time away from home (7+ weeks sometimes).

When they are in school I study (Korean these days) or build stuff for the fun of it. I'm not really social or anything. I simply like being home and doing the same things that got me FIRE'd to begin with.

I don't have any friction with random people, but I have felt some... resentment/spite/jealousy from friends. I don't know the cause or origins of it.

I noticed them speaking to me less and eventually they stopped messaging me at all. If I messaged them they would respond but would never hold a conversation. I tried for a while and then let them go.

I've had another friend I lost touch with suddenly "reconnect" with me post-FIRE only because he wanted to leverage my network/clout/whatever. So, yeah... I've had to deal with that too.

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Re:Ask HN: How is your early retirement working out? by muzani on Thursday November 16, 2023 @12:41AM (#38286147)

Yeah, the 'spite' is 100% there. Have a job desc, even if it's just "freelancing", "business" or "research".

Well, only some part of it is spite. I think many people associate jobs with identity, so not having a job is like not having a name. Batman has an alter ego for a reason. He can't just meet family and friends as Batman.

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