It's really simple: just demand SECDED.
That's all you need to know, one acronym, SECDED.
https://cr.yp.to/hardware/ecc.html
Single Error Correction, Double Error Detection.
BTW, this sort of ECC fraud has been going on since the 1990's at least. It isn't going to just go away. Learn what SECDED is and demand it.
Where a non-ECC DIMM is usually 8 DRAM chips (64 bits) and in DDR4 or earlier and an ECC DIMM would be 9 DRAM chips (72 bits), now with DDR5 can have either 9 DRAM chips or 10 DRAM chips (80 bits).
> the complexities of having ECC protection only on the link
That's not SECDED, since it can't correct a bitflip that occurs somewhere other than on the link, nor can it detect a double bitflip in those situations.
SECDED. Just ask for SECDED.
Even the Linux kernel knows about this:
# cat /sys/devices/system/edac/mc/mc1/csrow3/edac_mode
SECDED
SECDED. Just ask for SECDED.You're just making up arbitrary rules. The term SECDED does not incorporate any guarantees about which part of a system it applies to. It's just a mathematical statement about the strength of the ECC in use plus the implication that detectable but uncorrectable errors are reported.
What you're looking for requires more words to fully specify, probably including the term "end to end".