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Re:As child care costs soar, more parents may have to exit t... by nradov on Thursday November 02, 2023 @11:39AM (#38115060)
Multigenerational housing sounds nice in theory. The reality is often rather ugly with constant conflicts over respect, authority, and household decisions. And as the grandparents transition from being caregivers to needing constant care themselves, it's often the wife who gets stuck with that work to the detriment of her sanity and career prospects.

Some families can make multigenerational housing work well, but it's not a realistic general solution for affordable child care.

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Re:As child care costs soar, more parents may have to exit t... by scarface_74 on Thursday November 02, 2023 @11:46AM (#38115175)
Oh I wouldn’t do it. But it works in other cultures now and literally billions of people do it.
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Re:As child care costs soar, more parents may have to exit t... by nradov on Thursday November 02, 2023 @11:52AM (#38115284)
It only seems to work in other cultures because people are forced into it and have no other options. Very few people in the younger generation are actually happy with it. Hence the way young Chinese women now describe the ideal husband: "owns a home, owns a car, parents are dead".
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Re:As child care costs soar, more parents may have to exit t... by johnnyanmac on Thursday November 02, 2023 @11:54PM (#38124294)
I don't think it should be permanent, but the other extreme of "you're an adult now, good luck" is unreasonable too. It shouldn't be shamed to live with your parents after education and/or during early career. And if you can foot the bill to move out later in life after saving up, great.

Personally, it worked out for me. raise in my grandparents house until I was 12, but also grew up to see my parent go to military for ~6 years and my uncles getting kicked out later on as well. It's far from perfect but increasing divorce rates don't exactly show that being separated is better.

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