Which boomers hate with passion: they quitted their parents home as fast as possible, and kicked their children as soon as it doesn't yield tax benefits anymore. All while using real estate as an investment vehicle which led to unaffordable prices of today.

We are boomers at 49 and 47. Our responsibility for our children ended at 18. What we do/did (21 and 26 now) for them after that is out of the kindness of our hearts. It’s definitely not our responsibility to take care of of their kids.

This is our life now…

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36306966

As far as housing affordability, there are plenty of affordable homes in the US. You just have to be willing to live there.

> We are boomers at 49 and 47

You're not. You're full on Gen X. Your parenty (probably) were boomers.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_boomers

> What we do/did (21 and 26 now) for them after that is out of the kindness of our hearts.

yeah, other countries just call that "taking care of family" instead of treating it like a free handout. Beware that the US "kick the kids out the nest" mentality isn't a shared one worldwide, and even in the US is a fairly recent phenomenon.

>there are plenty of affordable homes in the US. You just have to be willing to live there.

maybe now, very recently with workplaces in tech specifically opening up to remote work. That wasn't the case when I graduated college as recent as 5 years ago. You don't get much negotiation for remote work and move wherever the job you choose takes you.

What you describe as a digital nomad lifestyle for you and your spouse speaks to your experience and value. Young 18-23 year olds don't get that flexibility in their new careers, nor have the savings lying around to start cosidering that.

Multigenerational housing sounds nice in theory. The reality is often rather ugly with constant conflicts over respect, authority, and household decisions. And as the grandparents transition from being caregivers to needing constant care themselves, it's often the wife who gets stuck with that work to the detriment of her sanity and career prospects.

Some families can make multigenerational housing work well, but it's not a realistic general solution for affordable child care.

Oh I wouldn’t do it. But it works in other cultures now and literally billions of people do it.

It only seems to work in other cultures because people are forced into it and have no other options. Very few people in the younger generation are actually happy with it. Hence the way young Chinese women now describe the ideal husband: "owns a home, owns a car, parents are dead".

I don't think it should be permanent, but the other extreme of "you're an adult now, good luck" is unreasonable too. It shouldn't be shamed to live with your parents after education and/or during early career. And if you can foot the bill to move out later in life after saving up, great.

Personally, it worked out for me. raise in my grandparents house until I was 12, but also grew up to see my parent go to military for ~6 years and my uncles getting kicked out later on as well. It's far from perfect but increasing divorce rates don't exactly show that being separated is better.