I meant pensions/retirement.

Nothing is perfect of course. Lots of pensions destroyed/raided, and retirements screwed up by greed too.

And going crazy in the other direction marriage wise definitely has very real downsides too!

I’d be curious to see how the majority of cases went though, overall.

We’re discovering the downsides of going too far in our current direction now, and I suspect this winter is going to be a doozy.

We currently are getting the worst of both worlds near as I can tell on both fronts (men and women), but it often gets worse before it gets better!