Re:Half a Million Kinksters Can't Be Wrong
by rayiner on Saturday October 07, 2023 @11:53PM
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Asian and Hispanic families are built around nuclear families (more strongly than even in the west). In my language, we have a whole set of words you don’t have in English for identifying relatives through marital relationships. (E.g. different words for maternal aunts versus paternal aunts.) It’s all highly structured around the assumption that marital relationships are durable.
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Re:Half a Million Kinksters Can't Be Wrong
by selimthegrim on Sunday October 08, 2023 @03:23AM
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Your conclusion here doesn’t follow from the premise - when two families or clans are marrying each other the result is not a nuclear family.
Re:Half a Million Kinksters Can't Be Wrong
by rayiner on Sunday October 08, 2023 @09:06AM
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It’s not just a nuclear family, but the nuclear family is still the foundation of the larger structure. Everyone is precisely situated in relation to durable marital bonds between two specific people. It’s not some free for all. Yeah, the cousins all play together and the aunties cook dinner together, but there’s no ambiguity or imprecision about who is married to whom.
Asian multi-generational family structures are often invoked to justify fatherless children raised “by the community,” etc., and it drives me nuts. There is nothing liberal about us—we have some of the most rigid marriage norms and gender roles around.
Re:Half a Million Kinksters Can't Be Wrong
by joshuamorton on Tuesday October 10, 2023 @02:24PM
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> It’s all highly structured around the assumption that marital relationships are durable.
You're again begging the question!
Non-nuclear doesn't imply non-durable!