I think there's a real difference depending if you "fit" where you are. In a city, no matter how weird your interests, you'll likely find a group nearby that is also interested in that.

In a small town or suburb if you're the "odd man out" it can be much harder.

But when I "lived in the city" as a younger man, I was often traveling out to the suburbs where friends lived as they had the space and the things to do.