Another good resource for this would be Stiffed by Susan Faludi ( https://susanfaludi.com/stiffed.html ) . Similarly, she started off saying "why are guys resisting the women's movement?" and that lead her to some great insights about the situation of men. I think she has some fantastic insights into why it is hard for progress to be made here. (her observation about the "masculine" approach taken by civil rights and women's rights and being a process that can't be taken to 100% completion has sat with me for years). highly recommended as another thoughtful reflection on the situation.