‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of childless men

Re:‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of c... by insickness on Tuesday September 05, 2023 @09:06PM (#37400087)

Looks are important, but you're lucky you're a man because status is just as important, especially if you're older and want to meet younger women. Lean into it: dress sharp, a little dressy and look sophisticated. There is a certain percentage of women who prefer the experienced, financially-set older guy who can show them things the younger guys can't. And to those women, looks are secondary because they don't go for older guys for their looks.

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Re:‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of c... by bradlys on Tuesday September 05, 2023 @09:58PM (#37400533)

> but you're lucky you're a man because status is just as important

Am I lucky? I work in tech. I'd say about half of the women I talk to at bars in NYC end up turning away as soon as we shift to the discussion of what I do for work. I dress much better than most men but I am short, ugly, and not blessed with the high T that is required to gain lots of muscle mass even if I am in the gym obsessively.

Hate to break it to you but the market has changed.

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Re:‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of c... by red-iron-pine on Wednesday September 06, 2023 @04:20PM (#37410726)

> only talks to women in bars in NYC

> surprised that he only interacts with shallow hoes

Never, not once, had a random woman interested in my IT shit unless they're also in STEM themselves. "Boring IT guy shit" is the correct answer, and then change the subject. If they know anything about it or care, they'll ask.

You probably just boring. Change that.

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