Re:‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of c...
by bryanlarsen on Tuesday September 05, 2023 @10:01AM
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A child's peer group has more influence over those questions than parents do. It's no excuse to neglect your children, but society places far more blame on parents than is warranted IMO.
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Re:‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of c...
by inerg on Tuesday September 05, 2023 @10:24AM
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While the child's peer group does have the strong influence on a few of those questions, it's probably worth noting that as the parent you build the tools that allows the child to develop the peer group that allows for them to be happy.
The unfortunate reality is that this groundwork is laid from around 0-10. After that it's a lot harder to correct the mistakes and the influence then definitely falls much more under peers than the parents.
Re:‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of c...
by em-bee on Tuesday September 05, 2023 @10:38AM
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exactly. i didn't have a peer group as a child. and my parents are the only ones responsible for that. i am not blaming them, because they couldn't do better, but most definitely their influence and making sure that i am in an environment where i can make friends is something they were responsible for.