Last week I opened yet another savings account with name roughly "baby girl trust" and the tax ID I got that morning from IRS website for the _trust_. New account setup was super easy because I had everything the credit union wanted for their back office.
I luckily had a lot of free time and motivation to learn this stuff. Most Americans don't know and presume it is therefore not possible.
"Voluntary" but required to live like a normal human being isn't very "voluntary" in reality.
Get a job without an SSN.
Passport works great for ID all around, because it does not require SSN and does not have home address.
Many things, like TSA (Soviet era) checkpoints don't actually require ID. People seemingly prefer to act like cattle and show IDs everywhere and voluntarily consent to full body scans. Then people complain that their bits of privacy got leaked. Of course it leaked, and you voluntarily consented.
But you, you're walking the walk. Asking the hard questions and accepting the consequences. There is only one way to make things change.
Don't let any little pedants tell you "how your daughter is going to grow up", either. Or that they somehow know how she'll feel about you.
FWIW: my kids have SSN's and that is just as dangerous as what you've chose.
When you get/renew passports, leave the SSN box blank. It will become second nature to ignore these data requests.
No, just making life more difficult for his child, who has no say in the matter.
Some people are bad at seeing children as humans, as opposed to appendages of the parent.
Or have you already resolved to believe that person is your "some people"?
SSN is voluntary. If parents would stop opting-in their babies into this data scheme, Americans could grow up without these numbers.