thats harsh

It was not meant to be harsh, simply a statement of fact. I certainly don't share the "Life is [harsh]. Adapt." mentality. I do believe in judging opinions based on how well they are substantiated. If you post an argument that is backed up by some sort of reasoning or proof, I'll be upvoting you whether I agree with you or not :-).

Life is. Adapt.

But it isn't. It's worse than that: it's fair. People judge you based on how they perceive you, and that's an open standard, and it's completely fair.

That makes it harder, because it's harder to admit that's how it works when things are down for you.