Not that I disagree, but I think it's not modern. In the past, it was probably simply much more accepted that the agency is taken away by authorities, that's just how life is. I think people grew much less tolerant of that recently (which honestly I think is a good development), and more willing to question authorities in general. The hate part then comes from nostalgia.

Frankly, this reeks of empty cynicism and we can do better than that around here.

Your experience is also far from universal. In my previous company I was part of the leadership core and not only did teams have agency to decide what process to use, we were actively encouraging teams to consider alternatives since our practices had become pretty frozen over time (old habits, etc).

Maybe your problem is you just found yourself at shitty companies. The world is a big one out there.