I’ve had the same exact experience. All it left me with was a bunch of “what-is” and “could-been”’s.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by valval on Friday August 04, 2023 @06:12PM
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Adding my similar experience to the mix. I don’t know my number, but I can tell for a fact that the girls who I deeply felt for are in the distant past, and the last dozens have all been some critical evaluation process of the person’s pros and cons in comparison to all the ones before. I hate it.
I am happily with someone way less experienced than me now, and I believe I can settle down with her now. I trust my ability to be done with the whole trying to one up on the last one now. If I had to only date people with similar pasts to mine, I most likely wouldn’t be able to trust them, however.
I agree. I was truly enamored with some of my high school-era paramours. After that, it really became a “is this person more of a benefit than a pain in the arse” calculation.
You’d be surprised how few people manage to come out on the positive end after you’ve known them for a few weeks.
I definitely did notice that the more people I was with the less interested I was becoming in actually settling down.