> who have let go of their self-ness(?) and wants, since "wanting" in nature necessarily means predation to every other being

I was discussing this on a sociology discord until some PhD asserted that every being seeks domination unless it's dominated...

I found the view a little narrow and I much prefer the one you described, even though we are to be predatory at points in our live.. (biochemistry dictatest that) we can and often prefer to be in a selfless state, a sharing, a harmonizing one.