How too much daydreaming affected me

Re:How too much daydreaming affected me by lazide on Friday July 28, 2023 @10:09AM (#36907028)

Specifically, I'm wondering if this particular trait is actually a conditioned response (look up trauma bonding) to narcissistic abuse.

Being fully authentic and honest (regardless of the circumstances) is essentially narcissist bait. And it works.

And at the beginning, narcissists WILL make things better when they have someone like that around. They got their supply, and the love bombing, extreme gratitude, etc. will all help make EVERYTHING feel amazing.

However, at some point dysregulation of one or both parties starts to happen (or one or both parties starts getting bored), and then that gets turned around and the shit starts, and then any authenticity or honesty gets used against the target while the NPD person denies all responsibility.

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Re:How too much daydreaming affected me by soulofmischief on Sunday July 30, 2023 @03:35AM (#36928779)

I'd highly recommend The Evolution of Trust, by Nicky Case. It puts some of these ideas into an interactive framework in the context of game theory.

It shows how interactions between these different kinds of people play out given different population distributions.

https://ncase.me/trust/

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