I’m not blaming these people, but if you grow up in a dysfunctional functional environment it is on the level of a miracle to break the cycle.
You don’t know what’s wrong or where to look for help and in my case I was even proud of my parentification for making me “strong and resilient” while minimizing the bad things as a coping mechanism.
The parents are dysfunctional people churning out the next generation of dysfunctional people. It’s an intergenerational cycle that is nearly impossible to break.