When the author writes:

> I don’t know enough to say what the best tactics are for these cases, but I have a few theories.

doesn't that somewhat justify the anger of the parent comment (who presumably "knows enough")?

If the author doesn't know enough about the topic, why the need to pontify? They could just stfu and have an opinion in topics on which they do have meaningful contributions. Not everyone needs to have an opinion on everything.

exactly. There are ideas in the OP article that can be taken and systematized into the high school system with the operational know-how of the parent commenter. The downstream effects of that would be incredible. We should be aiming for intervention as early as possible in the education system.

The parents in these situation often don’t have the emotional or social skills to do more or even realize that there are options other than be angry.

The parents are dysfunctional people churning out the next generation of dysfunctional people. It’s an intergenerational cycle that is nearly impossible to break.

I’m not blaming these people, but if you grow up in a dysfunctional functional environment it is on the level of a miracle to break the cycle.

You don’t know what’s wrong or where to look for help and in my case I was even proud of my parentification for making me “strong and resilient” while minimizing the bad things as a coping mechanism.