To be fair, the person that the parent is responding to is also giving extremely broad strokes. On its face listing out a set of really big barriers followed by “but they have advantages too!” can easily be seen to me like the “have you tried yoga” of being disadvantaged.

Like I can imagine a whole set of specific examples where “there are also advantages” would be incredibly offensive to say so handwavily. If someone tried to tell a teenager their experience with being sexually abused as a prepubescent child “has advantages” I would promptly try to remove that person from being near that or any other child for example.

I mean, the very point of the GP was that a lot of factors cannot be influenced by individual decisions - because they are systemic.