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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by toolz on Thursday June 29, 2023 @06:30PM (#36527724)
How could intellect, or the ability to reason and understand things ever be a problem connecting socially? If it's a problem, then it's not intellect but rather a lack of something. I would suggest it's a lack of intellect, or the lack of understanding the people around you and being able to find common threads of interest. This isn't a problem of high intellect. Everyone has absolute loads of things in common with every other human on this planet. If you can't connect with another human, it's not because of high intellect.
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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by johnfn on Thursday June 29, 2023 @06:33PM (#36527752)
> How could intellect, or the ability to reason and understand things ever be a problem connecting socially?

Really? You don't think that intelligence has multiple components - raw intelligence, social intelligence, etc? And that you could in theory be good at one but not at the other?

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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by toolz on Thursday June 29, 2023 @06:45PM (#36527899)
Sure, but analytical intelligence surely doesn't get in the way of social intelligence I wouldn't think. So my statement holds in that case where you lack some type of intelligence.

I can't see any reason that someone who is really intelligent at technical things couldn't be just as socially intelligent. They probably just don't have as much practice with social environments when compared to technical problems.

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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by kelipso on Thursday June 29, 2023 @08:59PM (#36529136)
It's received wisdom from 80s American movies and media that sprung from that: if you're smart, then you're a nerd and therefore bad at being social. And the converse fallacy comes into play too: if you're bad at being social, then you're a nerd and smart.
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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by gizmo on Thursday June 29, 2023 @06:49PM (#36527932)
Many intelligent people like having intelligent conversations. The kind of conversations where they learn new perspectives and where ideas can be challenged. If those conversations are not possible you get stuck making small talk, which is not all that satisfying.

Ever notice how SAHPs get starved for adult conversation? Parents have many things in common with their children and they care about their lives. They can certainly connect to their children. And yet, interaction with kids is not a substitute for adult conversation.

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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by fragmede on Thursday June 29, 2023 @08:26PM (#36528813)
Stay At Home Parents isn't a term I've encountered before
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Re:Why do men stupefy themselves? Leo Tolstoy on why we drin... by apsurd on Friday June 30, 2023 @12:45AM (#36530594)
no i don't notice that, and i moved back to my suburban hometown where everyone is pushing a stroller.

STAHP love connecting with adults to... talk about their kids.

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