Re:Ignoring Boys' Emotional Needs Fuels Public Health Risks
by htag on Sunday June 25, 2023 @08:28PM
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Hate implies resistance, while acceptance has no resistance. It's this resistance that manifests itself in how they treat men in general.
Re:Ignoring Boys' Emotional Needs Fuels Public Health Risks
by makeitdouble on Sunday June 25, 2023 @08:55PM
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Someone who hates how their father behaved and treated them, and put their soul into being better as a human being would still fit that "resistance" theme. That resistance could totally manifest in them not engaging in aggressive or corrosive behavior toward other men, if that's part of what they hated in their father.
That would stand if you considered every guy talking shit about their father as "bad" men, regardless of how they behave otherwise.
I agree having a settle relationship with one's father is better, but people with legitimate grief against their father and having objective disgust about what they did as human beings shouldn't be a disqualifying situation.
I'm also a bit perplexed by the opposition between hating someone and accepting them. You can acknowledge what someone did for you, see where they come from and accept they are who they are, while hating their guts.