And yet, here in Latin America, there are posters in every major city decrying the crisis of "femicidio" (murder of women). Not because they are disproportionately victims (quite the opposite), but because that's what's interesting to the American NGOs that decide what political issues are trendy and important.

When they cannot defend themselves in all of the social discussion, bargaining, and gossip that is used for control of their lives, the feeling of helplessness can become overwhelming.

And if a confrontation becomes violent, probabilistically the bigger, stronger one will most likely win. In a male-female dynamic where death is the outcome, the origin of the conflict is rarely considered.

In many countries girls and women still need education for reading and written communication. I think in every country boys and men should receive education for emotional self-understanding and communication.

But I'm with you in the frustration that this isn't talked about.

The above attitude I feel like minimises men's problems - the implicit assumption is that everyone else has it worse, whether that attitude was intended or not.

I've done literally no research into the problems these groups face comparatively, but I find it interesting that above case is usually assumed.

- How about the fact that in some countries women can't even show their hair, have the right to drive or vote?

- How about the fact that women are several times more likely to be sexually assaulted?

- How about the fact that women have to worry about potential unwanted pregnancy?

- How about the fact that abortion laws are being repealed across the United States?

- How about the glass ceiling and the fact that women are paid less for the same jobs across many industries?

That's not to say that men don't have their own challenges as well, but it's borderline delusional if you think that men and women face the same level of challenges.

Hummm well i guess i am taking the bait.

> How about the fact that in some countries women can't even show their hair, have the right to drive or vote?

I don't want to diminish the experience of people in other countries. But comparing acros so many different variable muddy the water. If you gonna bring up women in muslim/arab countries (many of which support the hijab btw), then i will raise you the men currently dying in ukraine and what ever war you want to talk about.

Let's focus on the average experience in the US... where we have both enough information and cultural understanding to make good commentary.

> - How about the fact that women are several times more likely to be sexually assaulted?

Something, something prison... And what about the other kind of assaults... like say murder ?

> How about the fact that women have to worry about potential unwanted pregnancy?

Touche on this one. Also i would say that women have more control on when/if they want to be parent as opposed to men. And the 18 year child support can be brutal. (Did you know that child support can't be discharged in bankruptcy court ?)

> How about the fact that abortion laws are being repealed across the United States?

Agree that a travesty.

> How about the glass ceiling and the fact that women are paid less for the same jobs across many industries?

Yeah this one is a rabit hole. But comparing modern data, and normalizing this is much less pronouced. How about the missing men in univestity etc... etc...

> That's not to say that men don't have their own challenges as well, but it's borderline delusional if you think that men and women face the same level of challenges.

This must be an american thing, the weird need to diminish or reduce the experience of a certain group. Life sucks, and sucks for a lot of people accros so many different variable.

I understand the concept that some issue might be more pressing , but to call someone delusional simply for asking the question is not helful at all...

This should be familiar to most male members of this forum: being the computer nerd was weak, not playing the man's sports was "girly", not meeting body image standards is contrasted to being too feminine.

Men who are raped aren't taken seriously at all because of these problems. But that's never getting fixed so long as your only answer (and it's rife in this thread) is to construct these issues in opposition to femininity.

Instead everyone can remember one person saying "men suck" in some context, and on that basis they're clamoring to tear down decades of progress on equality. Which isn't going to help any man.

- How about the fact that men commit suicide at greater rates than women

- How about the fact that men are 10 times more likely to be killed on the job

- How about the fact that men are several times more likely to be physically assaulted

- How about the fact that men are more likely to die of covid

- How about the fact that 3 in 4 homeless people are men

We could go on and on like this in an all day pity party if you want?

> I don't wanna get into a whole thing

Proceeds to get into the whole thing.

I don't have time to show my thoughts with any objective metrics, so I'm just going to lay out how I see things, so this will be touchy-feely. This is merely my opinion and I have no problem with people disagreeing.

I think the biggest impact is in how people can function in modern society - pay gap, positions of power, tokenization - a good book is "Invisible Man" by Ralph Waldo Ellison which is about more than being black in America but about being an individual that everyone wants to put in a box or a particular group - he's invisible because people don't see the individual. It's universal, and everyone feels that to some degree, but the degree I feel it as a white male is much smaller. Basically your ability to project your will on the world is easy mode for white male (btw - me).

Anecdote alert: For example I was literally just talking to an old friend who I've worked with in the past who is a great architect but kept getting the in-the-middle-of-nowhere projects at a very well known and old NYC firm, so she started her own architecture business and is doing quite well.

But not that it makes things easy for men! Because there is also expectation to be a provider, suck up your emotions and be tough. These things, which some point to as "the problem" are harming men as well and should be addressed. And this is where it gets very messy - some of the things that are "evidence" that men are privileged are also things that harm men in non-obvious ways. And as for the "easy to project your will", there is also an expectation that you have to and you're a failure if you don't. Why can't someone live a simple life without feeling like a failure?

Ultimately I think the ideal goal should be to not push gender based expectations - both for male and female.

I suppose a lot of these issues come down to these subtler problems - Men have fewer problems in some senses (physical capability, professional respect, etc) but more in others (generally emotional and relationships), wheas for women it's often the reverse. These sorts of implicit assumptions that exist on a cultural level can be difficult for people of the opposite gender to see or understand.

Here's the thing though, there are objective metrics. On almost all of them, women have it better as a group than men.

Victims of violence? Overwhelmingly male. Suicides? The same. Deaths and injuries at work. The bar charts for all of those look pretty much the same.

Other objective metrics reveal females to have the upper hand: education (better for females, worse for males), health (better for females, worse for males), family court (better for females, worse for males), employment (better for females than for males), homelessness (better for females than for males).

So your assertion that there exists objective metrics but that it would take too long to present is, I feel, maybe correct, but there's so few of those metrics and they need to be applied to narrowly, they may as well not exist.