How to Do the Thing You've Been Avoiding

Re:How to Do the Thing You've Been Avoiding by comboy on Thursday June 22, 2023 @05:20AM (#36429723)

Seems like you want to avoid calls if possible. If not then to me it helps to think in packages. So there is no "I need to make a phonecall". There's option A - "I make a phonecall and the then I have this" or "I don't make a phonecall and there are those consequences". What's the key to me here is that both options are perfectly fine. I.e. "suffering + some reward" or "no suffering and no reward". Or sometimes both options require some suffering. That is not a problem though, that is life.

But suffering is really something different without anxiety. If it's unavoidable anyway there's a peace about it.

And I'm sorry if I come off as an armchair diagnostician, I have no clue about your life obviously, it's just that this kind of thinking made such a big difference to me that it feels bad not sharing it.

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Re:How to Do the Thing You've Been Avoiding by noduerme on Thursday June 22, 2023 @05:38AM (#36429818)

no, I think it's quite interesting to diagnose this from a code point of view... this is why it really sucks that I have literally no one in my life who writes code or understands my job (or can chop things up into logical if/else statements like this ;) I probably should look at my own messy internal call stack from this pov a bit more often.

My best friend as a kid was raised in Zen Buddhism and we learned to code together. This is the kind of way he would look at it. So I appreciate it.

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