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Re:Loneliness is stronger when not alone by BizarreByte on Tuesday June 20, 2023 @11:22AM (#36405322)
I grew up in a small rural area and experience this in the opposite direction. Sometimes I just need to get away from people, there's too many of them and crowds can be nerve wracking, not to mention noisy.

There is nowhere on earth I am happier than at a family member's camp, deep in the woods away from everyone all by myself. Ultimately I think your last point is absolutely correct. I doubt I'd feel this way if this wasn't a lived experience while growing up.

Re:Loneliness is stronger when not alone by wenc on Tuesday June 20, 2023 @11:31AM (#36405473)
Yes. I used to live in a smaller city and my friends were from even smaller places (small towns, farms). They have a relationship with space, openness and people that I don’t have. This is particularly pronounced here in the US where there’s vast expanses and people love their backyards. I never had backyard growing up and never missed it.

When I told them about my dream home being a 500 sq ft apartment in the middle of a bustling metropolis, they said the first thought they had was “claustrophobia”.

But for me, small spaces in dense areas give me joy — living in the midst of an exciting morass of people where people collide in Brownian motion and new ideas form feel like happiness. This notion is much more common in denser places like Europe and Asia.