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Re:Stop Eliminating Perfectly Good Candidates by Asking Them... by bheadmaster on Saturday June 03, 2023 @09:03AM (#36176354)
To be fair, not all of us can be socially competent mentally healthy people who enjoy life and regularly stop to smell the flowers. Some of us just suck, some of us are miserable, so we have to put on a fake persona in order to entertain the other person enough for them to actually give us a chance. In a way, dating is all about entertaining and being entertained.

It's either that or stay lonely.

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Re:Stop Eliminating Perfectly Good Candidates by Asking Them... by dublinben on Saturday June 03, 2023 @10:42AM (#36177073)
The better alternative is to work on yourself to become a better person, who is worthy of dating without deception.
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Re:Stop Eliminating Perfectly Good Candidates by Asking Them... by bheadmaster on Saturday June 03, 2023 @11:15AM (#36177310)
You are implicitly assuming that there's some finite amount of work that could make every such person "dateable without deception". While it may or may not be true in individual case, as a general statement it sounds to me more like "well, it's _your_ fault because you didn't work on yourself enough, so you deserve to be lonely".
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