Incredibly disrespectful.
>Who are you to judge here?
The child of a father who sacrificed the quality of life of my mom and my sister and I for the benefit of my grandparents who lived way too long.
I would put kids’ interests at number 1, then spouse, then maybe parents. I did not bring my kids into this world so they can be my or anyone else’s servants in old age. I want them to do what is best for them and their kids, and hopefully I will be lucky enough to be able to tag along for the ride without being too much trouble.
I don’t believe the benefits of monogamous marriage are simply cultural. One would have to pose a better ideal for generating and raising children (because nurturing the next generation is a key part of societal survival) that leads to human flourishing. Is it polygamy, or casual hookups, or absentee fathers?
That said I do think there is more to the marriage relationship than procreation. That 2 people are becoming one. With that comes life long friendship bound by a vow that weathers the storms of life, close intimacy etc.
... the good examples are like your relationship I assume?
In some cultures parents are number 1, and the expectation is your elderly parents outrank your wife in terms of the devotion and love you should show them. Is that disrespectful too, or does it only apply to close friends?
Who are you to judge here?