Re:The Never Married, a New Normal
by silverquiet on Sunday May 28, 2023 @11:54AM
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Try putting "I'd like someone willing to sacrifice a lot of ego and choose to give up a lot of freedom and self" into Tinder and see how it goes. And as bad as the dating apps are, I never got the impression that people were evaluating each other on much more than superficial metrics in the old school dating world anyway.
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In my experience, all dating is superficial in the beginning, and attempting to short-circuit that process never really works in the long run. You can't speedrun getting to know someone. This is why "dating milestones" are such a trope.
Re:The Never Married, a New Normal
by Obscurity4340 on Sunday May 28, 2023 @10:38PM
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By milestones (and not to be crass) you mean like the first poop at someone else's place while they're in the adjacent bedroom, right?
Re:The Never Married, a New Normal
by andromeduck on Monday May 29, 2023 @05:18PM
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Idk about that. If interests are aligned and chemistry is okay, things tend to just work out.
Tinder is not a place to find a spouse. Maybe some outliers can and have. But for the vast majority of people, Tinder is a place to be ignored. For a plurality of women and a minority of men, Tinder is a place to schedule hookups.