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Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by system16 on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @02:23PM (#36048637)
This is just anecdotal but I remember when I was growing up there were always a few kids in school who had extremely restrictive parents like this (strictly controlled their TV, phone, time with friends, searched their rooms, etc.)

On the surface, it seemed like it was effective and they had model kids. But in every case I can remember it resulted in the kids just becoming much better at finding ways to rebel (in increasingly escalating ways) that the parents couldn't catch, until they got a knock at the door from the police, or their kid was pregnant, or overdosed, etc.

Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by quickcheque on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @03:22PM (#36049473)
How about the ones that were allowed to do whatever they wanted? Where are they now?
Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by trillic on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @03:41PM (#36049808)
On hacker news, well-adjusted, highly-educated, able to think for myself, found healthy outlets for "rebellion", and I have healthy relationship with my parents that feels more like friendship than dictatorship.

Anecdotally, I got in trouble occasionally as a teenager, but those moments of trouble were considerably less rebellious than friends of mine with helicopter parents.

My Dad always told me growing up that no matter where I am or what I am doing, that he will pick me up no questions asked if I am ever somewhere or doing something and I need to get out. Used it once, we talked the next day like adults about my decisions that led me into the bad situation and that was that.

Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by WarOnPrivacy on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @03:49PM (#36049937)
> Anecdotally, I got in trouble occasionally as a teenager, but those moments of trouble were considerably less rebellious than friends of mine with helicopter parents.

Kids in trouble are often kids developing ambition. I'd wager the disproportional punishments (arrest+record over getting yelled at and shooed off) are what do actual harm.

Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by WarOnPrivacy on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @03:36PM (#36049732)
That'd be me. With adults out of the way, I learned to be self-sufficient and I learned how to navigate complex social situations on my own. All the stuff in my life that worked out well - I can trace it all to that.

My 5 kids had always-present parenting (because independent growth became effectively illegal+impossible). They're adults now and all live with me.

Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by listenallyall on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @05:14PM (#36050945)
You're a parent of 5 adult children who all live under the same roof as you? Honestly I don't know whether to congratulate you (my kids all love me so much and all get along) or commiserate (none of my kids are independent).
Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by WarOnPrivacy on Wednesday May 24, 2023 @02:51PM (#36062458)
We all get on really well but they are better people than can be attributed to my parenting.

FWIW there's a rule in play that success is kids'; failure is parents'. I can't do their hard work of growing up but I could surely sabotage it.

Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by badpun on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @03:39PM (#36049769)
I was pretty much allowed to do whatever I wanted. Overall, I was punished only once in my teenage years (was told I had to skip a ski trip because I came home very drunk one night, at 15 or 16 yo). All in all I'd say I did pretty good, I'm already FIREd at 42 years old.
Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by quickcheque on Wednesday May 24, 2023 @10:44AM (#36058839)
And are you following the same approach with your own kids (if any)?
Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by badpun on Thursday May 25, 2023 @07:45AM (#36069498)
I don't have kids.

I think the approach should highly depend on the kid. I for one was good at academic subjects and also reasonably concerned about my future to put in the work at school (I never ran off with the circus etc.), so hands-off approach worked well with me. It might not work as well with someone completely different.

Re:Social Media Can Be a ‘Profound Risk’ to Youth, Surgeon G... by fletchowns on Tuesday May 23, 2023 @05:14PM (#36050949)
From my experience, the kids who had very restrictive parents were the least well adjusted by the time they had freedom in college, and they really let loose in a much more extreme way than those who had been afforded more freedom & privacy when they were younger.