I really wish more (any?) chat programs let you know some kind of conversation was happening, but wasn't pinging you every single message. Something like every X hour(s) there's a notification that says "X messages have been received," or when a chat has been idle for an extended period of time, then after X time the first new message comes in I receive a notification for only that first message.
As is, 90% of my chat apps have notifications completely disabled, and I have to manually go in to see if anything has happened.
I remember back in the Good Old Days of Android there was a notification ticker that unintrusively told me that I had gotten a notification and sampled some (or all) of the text.
Now, you can be watching a video and have 1/6th of your screen suddenly change (and repeatedly if, as mentioned, it's an active group chat)
Texts, calls, or anything that I might need to see immediately is all that I allow. Emails, ads, and other crap gets canned the first time I see it. If it's not urgent, then I don't need to know about it.
I've even started removing notification noises from my groupchats with my friends, so the notification will let me know there's a conversation happening but I won't be pestered into participating.